When I got rid of Facebook a little over 2 years ago, I was really seeking some privacy. As I’ve previously mentioned, I think oversharing the wrong information can actually have a huge negative impact on us. The more engrossed we get in social media as a culture, the more we seem to lose the sight of reality. We gain a digital, filtered experience and in return lose a personal, real life connection. A lot for me has changed since I first wrote my post about taking a break from Social Media, mostly that I’ve just realized what it’s done for me.
What I’ve learned since getting rid of my Facebook:
I am Not in the Know – I realized how much I relied on Facebook to keep me up to date with current happenings in the news. I was kind of disgusted with myself for not being as educated on hot topics as I once was just because it wasn’t right in front of me. I have had to make a conscious effort to educate myself about whats going on in the world.
I Don’t Know Your Birthday and You Don’t Know Mine – I really don’t. Of course, I remember my closest friends birthdays and my family members birthdays organically, but aside from that, if we don’t speak regularly I really don’t know your birthday. Also, if I wouldn’t feel comfortable texting you HAPPY BIRTHDAY, why the heck should I write it on your wall? In return, the birthday’s I do remember are special to me! In return, I feel so special and loved right back when mine is remembered without a Facebook prompt. (Mine is July 20th though hint hint)
It’s Nice to Genuinely Wonder How You Are – I’m going to be honest here, it is so nice to see someone out and ask them how they are and really mean it. If I was Facebook friends with you I know exactly how you are. You’re super busy all the time, you went to a children’s birthday party last weekend, you were in terrible traffic because of an accident on Thursday and your vacation is in 16 days, 3 hours and 21 minutes. Now, when I see an old friend out and ask them how they are, I really want to know and I am giving you genuine reactions when you tell me!
People Get Concerned When You Disappear From Facebook – We expect people to be on Facebook. We expect to see their updates and their status’s and when someone steps away from that we think, WHY?! So many people assumed I had “blocked” them and maybe in a way removing yourself from Facebook is a way of blocking someone but really, its just a way of asking for some privacy. Some people even felt negatively about it. I believe the reaction I received speaks volumes to how used to knowing so much about other people’s lives we are.
I Need a Safe Space for my Most Cherished Photos – We all created albums and uploaded them when Facebook first came into the scene. I have, of course, since gotten rid of the phones I used to have. Luckily (and not so luckily) my albums form years ago are still in tact on Facebook. I am able to log in real quick to grab an important one here and there but I rely on Facebook as a safe keeping and need to change that.
The People that Matter Will Stay In Touch – It’s so easy to stay in touch with someone when you’re on a social platform like Facebook. It’s convenient, taking no time at all to check in on someone. I am impressed with the people who constantly reach out to me on a personal level. Whoever cares enough to pick up the phone and check in are the people you want in your life. The first people you want to call when something good or bad are the people that matter most. Pay attention to who that is in your life. The easiest way to decipher who those people are is to take away the easiest mode of communication and see who remains. I am more confident than ever in my circle now.
Take a little break and see how you feel. It may not be great for you, or it could make all the difference! Let me know how it goes.